Judgment fear

By watedroplet Water April 30, 2025

Reaching the end, now I have discussed with you everything we can do to show self-love. This topic will be incomplete if I do not discuss this one barrier, which has the capability to pull down everything.

If we have open wounds, we can dress and heal them; if we have ulcers, we can take care and medicine to get them healed; if a fire breaks out, you can call the fire brigade and help, but what will you do if you are judging yourself or you are being judged?

Judgement fear is like a cancer that flourishes within no time. It ruins our self-confidence and self-esteem; it kills love and understanding between me and my inner self; it convinces us that self-love is not for us; it is a property of few.

The sting of judgment is poisonous. No one escapes it. I had learned how to fill myself with positivity; I knew how to keep myself charged and encouraged; I took good care of self-compassion and self-care. In this balanced state I fell into a situation where I offended one of my seniors. The reason was right, but my execution was wrong. I did this because that was not aligning with my values, and my gut feeling was not allowing me. So respecting self, I questioned. My senior started showing how inefficient I was in my workplace. My image was spoiled in front of everyone. In my name, others were doing wrong and enjoying it. I was judged every time. All my positivity and enthusiasm was gone. I just wanted some space to breathe and live. I knew things were wrong, but I had no energy to fight with this corrupted system or people. My situation was unbearable; everyone could sense this. Till the time this cloud of judgment was there over my head, I just could not function properly. A group of my co-workers lifted this cloud of judgment, and then only I could once again start thinking about self-care and self-love. They even arranged meetings with senior officials so that I could report the wrongdoing, but I had no courage, and I can only see a bleak future ahead. I did not complain.

This quote finds this place as best to be revealed:

"When you truly don't care what anyone thinks of you, you have gotten dangerously close to something called freedom."

Yes, judgment and freedom are two ends of the continuum. We can be anywhere in between. In order to break this, we need to follow the six-step judgment detox.

1) Witness your judgment without judgment: None of us see ourselves as judgmental. Being able to evaluate oneself is great. This shows the roadblocks.

2) Honor the wound: With the help of emotional freedom technique (EFT), we are able to tap on specific meridians of energy, which triggers specific emotions in stress that we have to deal with.

3) Put love on the altar: Here we learn to surrender and win the judgment through love.

4) See for the first time:

5) Cut the cords

6) Bring your shadow to light

When you do these things, then you realize that judgment is the emotional pain that is calling for help. Once I understand this judgment, I gain the freedom to self-love and self-care.

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