A light in the darkness

Unfairness is not uncommon in our lives. Not necessarily that it is done intentionally; many times we become egocentric and only see our own perspective and feel hurt by unfairness.  We are not unaware of the bitterness caused by unfairness and how it spoils our lives. Still, unknowingly, it rules our lives now and then. So, some people have tried to overpower this crippling power. They are no better than those who couldn't override the unfairness. They are not people who simply accept the unfairness and keep walking ignorantly. Rather, they develop these qualities within them to deal with the unfairness presented. A) Control over emotional response These people are aware of their moment-to-moment emotions every time. So when an incident triggers their emotional response, they know something has gone wrong and try to understand it rather than allowing it to obsess them and overthink. Instead, they allow this emotional response to express itself, feel it, and end the process there r

These unjust pains can be felt in many ways. I will channel them under a few headings.   a) Some people think that we deserve to be hurt.   Sometimes people hurt us on purpose. They want us to feel the pain because they think we deserve to be hurt. Life has bitter and sweet ways to make you realise this. I happened to take this lesson the hard way. I was very outspoken in many ways. One such incident brought serious confrontation to one of my seniors. This sent a fire of rage among all the seniors, as I was the youngest person in the unit. They started to boycott me because they thought I deserved it. Since it was enacted in disguise, I was unaware. I trusted everyone and used to ask for help from them, and they used to mislead me. One such incidence brought me to a situation where I was on unknown streets searching, and they all just said to ask the other person. That was the day I realised that there is no one but yourself to fight for you. I trusted that person so much, but that

 The second dimension of pain is the unjustness one feels when hurt. Merriam-Webster online English Dictionary  defines unjust as characterised by injustice; being unfair. Many times we are hurt not with the intention of harming but because we perceive it as unjust, and that hurts. As I was writing this, I was reminded of one of the incidents that left a deep impression in my mind. In the place where I was posted, two of my senior madams were of the same commissioning batch: One was posted as matron in charge, so she availed herself of all the facilities of a manager—no long duties, no night duties, no ward duties, etc.; the other one was posted as a general duty matron; she has to do all the duties assigned by this matron. So, on my first night duty, I saw this person bringing the report book to the matron, throwing it on her table, and going off. It appeared so weird to me, but I kept quiet. As my days advanced in that place, I heard so many things from this senior madam, showing h