A light in the darkness

  In my previous post I had been talking about self-compassion. The formula Dr Kristin Neff has given is Self-Compassion = Self-Kindness + Human connection + Mindfulness Now, compassion means sympathetic consciousness of other's distress together with a desire to alleviate it. (taken from  https://www.merriam-webster.com/ ). So, self-compassion means sympathetic consciousness of one's own distress together with a desire to alleviate it.  Kindness means the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. (taken from oxford languages dictionary .) This means that in order to be sympathetically conscious about one's own distress, I need to be friendly, generous, and considerate to myself. Three questions arises here a) How can I be friendly to myself? b) How can I be generous to myself? c) How can I be considerate to myself? In order to understand this topic, I have referred to these study materials. a) Self-compassion: The proven power of being kind to yourself b...

In my last post I talked about accepting ourselves as we are. This brought me to a place called transparency. "Am I transparent to myself?" Can I say, "I am the same from the back as I am from the front"? This took me years to answer because I was never the same. I still remember those days when I would smile and talk to people and speak rubbish behind their back. This was the aftermath of what I received from others. I could sense this quite early before it was uncontrollable. I never wanted to be bad like this, but I became. My heart started to hate myself because this was not what I wanted to be. At this moment, my inner voice said to analyze what went wrong rather than to blame and hate yourself. Every time I would try to do good, the badness I received from others stood before me, and I pulled back.  These incidences flew me to all those people who did me wrong, and I was madly angry at them. They never asked me sorry. I was able to forgive them because I made ...

This was the long-awaited post on my part. I was busy with A2Z and my own works, so it got delayed but in order to honor this, I share this goodness. I will begin with this quote:  "Be the reason someone believes in the goodness of people." Karen Salmonsohn The loads of kindness and goodness are always less than the burdens of unkindness and soreness we face. These bitterness make us worst and worst, stealing our true selves. None of us wants to be bad, but past experiences always stop us from doing good. There was a time in my life when I thought I did not see any goodness happening around me, or, let me probably put it this way, I failed to acknowledge the goodness that was happening around me, because my eyes were stuck on the wrong done to me. Amidst all this engulfing bitterness, there was one day that caught my attention the most. That was the day when goodness was out loud and would not allow the evil to steal the peace anymore.  I have been in this situation many time...