A light in the darkness

  Having discussed with you about setting boundaries, missing out on a no will be a big blunder. No is in fact the master game changer that sets boundaries.  Though I am not a people pleaser, I still remember days when I feared saying no. I have had two incidents that have highly impacted my life.  Let me name this incident as incident 1. It was my first profession, where I was asked to do something that was against my values. I feared saying no because I had just joined my job, and in that environment, saying no was considered rebellious. I did not say no and did what was commanded. Later I showed those loopholes to a higher official. This move adversely impacted my life. I fought the tough fight, and later on I got acceptance for this no.  This is incident 2. It was in my mid-career life when my most senior official asked me to give her home services. In that institution, no one said no to her. I said to her that I don't give home services. I was called to have a f...