A light in the darkness

As I was pondering over pain and how it has transformed me, I learned a very good lesson. As life brought challenges and I met failures in my life, my outlook towards life was blurring every now and then. It was impossible for me to trust that something good could happen to me now. I was shattered and broken.  This was the time I met my God. I started looking away from my failures and setbacks towards God. This transformational shift in my thought transformed my victim thought into a victor thought. It instilled in me new hope and channelled my thought process towards a positive outlook. From there on, I never took the path of negativity. I always try to keep my thoughts on a positive track, even when life says you are a big fool. I say to myself,Let us see what comes out. This positive outlook has been very helpful to me in making my life look beautiful and good.  Today, when I look back on all these pains, I feel they were all important for me to shape me into what I am now....

As I have clarified what personal pain I am talking about in this section, I am directly hopping on to personal pain as presented by Smedes (1984). Smedes says in her book  "Forgive and forget"  that something can come from anywhere and anytime. She begins her discussion with a personal story of her own. So, here I will also describe this personal pain from something similar. My mother is very caring, and many times she goes out of her way to help others without thinking about herself. She used to take care of our neighbour's child in the same way. One day I happened to overhear the mother of this young child saying that our neighbour does not help me at all. That was like a piercing dagger in my heart. I just cannot tolerate this for my mother. I fought with my neighbour for that:How  can somebody comment on my mother's most caring nature like this?" For me, it was impossible to imagine someone ruining my mother's image because their needs were not met. Thi...