Kind of praises we give
Have you ever observed what words you use to praise your kids? Let me introduce you to a few. "My colleague's son or daughter got this many marks, and you still scored second place ." "How intelligent is he or she?" "My colleague's son or daughter is very talented ." If we closely observe the underlined words, they are all the results we got, and we praise the child for achieving the results. Such praise makes them become result-oriented and forget to enjoy the process that makes it happen. Words are double-edged swords. Yes, words of encouragement are important for kids. They work miracles in their lives. But, at the same time, if we are not careful with our words, they may backfire too. Kids are like a blank page in a book. For them, parents are everything. So they keenly listen to every word you say for them. They miss none. As I was writing these lines, I was reminded of one such incidence in my own life. My mother was very good at mat