A light in the darkness

When I started to write about taking my downtime, I realized I am not interested in the well-planned self-care that every other person is talking about in the market. I myself have tried them many a time but often gave up in between. I don't want something like that to happen this time. So, I was searching for one thing that makes the difference and makes my self-care my personal stuff, unique and made for me only types.  This is the place where intuitive guidance works. I happened to refer to two books to understand this topic better, and both have contributed a lot in making this topic even more meaningful.  In this fast-paced life, we often find ourselves racing and forgetting ourselves. This is the point to have a heart-based awareness, or heart intelligence, which is the key to managing our personal and planetary changes in speed.  We have heard these metaphors: "Listen to your heart," "Go to your heart for answers, and Put your heart into it." You must hav...

  After a month-long journey of understanding oneself and prioritizing oneself, I have now reached a state where I need to have some downtime, a place to rest and relax, and time to care for myself.  I found many books that guided me systematically to care for myself. Yeah! It seems very promising and good, but after a while, even though they are very good and meet my requirements, I give up. I don't want this kind of self-care, which I have to start all over again and again.  Reading this book, Take Time for Your Life , introduced me to the very puddle I always find myself in and struggle to find my own life. I still remember my younger days when I used to sincerely journal. These journalings have helped me to pour out my emotions and vent well, and hence, I have much clearer views of my life. Today, I realize how much harm I have done myself by not journaling all these years. I feel I am becoming the same lost and confused me from which I had come out. This reviewing of...

As I was reading the book Real Self-Care, the author quoted various examples. One of them I try to explain in my way. "I feel sorry I spent so much time in the spa when I could have taken care of my family." "I deeply regret not attending to your needs." "How can I relax when there is so much to be done?" I just can't relax." "When I take time for my care, I feel selfish." In my quest to understand what is happening with self-care and help, I happened to meet with some of the harshest realities. Sometimes it seems that I am pushing myself for my self-care and, deep inside, building the base of self-hatred. I started looking into this new and most ignored concept when I started reading the book Real Self-Care . The author showed this with many examples. I got similar things in these two posts about what guilt has to do , and White Hot Truth soothes self-help fatigue as she enlightens it in her book White Hot Truth , which also confirmed ...

  This season of Blogchatter, 2025, I chose to explore self-love, and yes, it has helped me discover some of the most interesting topics, which I would have been otherwise ignorant of, but they are important. In this course I came across the term "self-care." Everywhere you go, you will hear it: self-care yoga, self-care spa, self-care massage, self-care diet, and on and on.... What is this self-care all about? I read somewhere that we should exercise as part of self-care. I was putting on weight, and I started doing exercise, and after a while, when I lost some weight, I stopped. By definition, this is also self-care? I am not very happy with this kind of self-care.  I still remember those days of my life when I had to get up early at 5 am and rush to make meals, and then I had to run to catch the bus so that by 9:30 or 10 am I reached my institute. I worked there with a schedule, and then by six I ran to catch my bus. I used to reach back to my house by 9 at night. People w...

After studying this topic, I feel like writing poetry before I describe the topic. The following stanza describes the beauty and glory of gratitude, which we often forget to acknowledge.  Here, I present my poem, Grains of Gratitude. GRAINS OF GRATITUDE gaiety you protrude misery you prosecute so that I be imbued, O grain of gratitude! with your guiding attitude.  born in the mills of solitude carried across Earth's longitude and the latitude O grain of gratitude! your virtue is multitude. dechaining from the lassitude armoring with the fortitude rooting me in my centritude O grain of gratitude! mesmerising is your pulchritude. I owe you all my hebetude for I know your effect's magnitude adding to my solicitude O grain of gratitude! how I long to be your exactitude. We all know gratitude. Please put it into your own words. When I tried to put it in my words, "It means thanking for something I received." In simple terms, a thank you. Yes.  When I tried to understand wh...

  I have discussed with you what is urgent and what is important in the context of prioritizing yourself. Now, I am in a position to draw your attention towards your zany or unique ability that only you have.  I have been discussing with you all about becoming self-aware, prioritizing yourself, and deciding what is important. Now the question arises, what to be aware of? or what to prioritize in my life? , or what is important? The first thing to be aware of is your zaniness or the unique qualities you have. I am just an ordinary person; nothing is unique in me, must be the answer of many of you. Once upon a time, I too used to think the same, but when I started looking within myself and how things are unfolding around me, I discovered that yes, I too have unique abilities. I will share two incidents with you all.  After a long break, I restarted my studies. When I went to the college, I did not disclose that I had joined college after a long break, so they all thought th...

  This week I have talked to you about our basic needs (the L-factor), and then I talked to you about no shortcuts while discussing organizing the important over the urgent (quadrant II).  Now the question arises, how is this L-factor related to shortcuts, and what does this X-factor have to do with it? Isn't this rumbling in your head?  To help you understand this better, let me set up a quick scenario. Amit said, "You are a son of a bitch." Rehan slapped Amit. So, the above scene looks like this.  It seems that Amit provided the acting event or adversity (in other terms, provided the stimulus). Now this stimulus made Rehan angry, and he slapped (consequence, i.e., emotional and behavioral outcomes; response). It seems that there was a stimulus that made the consequence or response occur. Psychologist Albert Ellis simplified it more. He gave the ABC theory . In this theory A- Acting event or Adversity B- Belief (thoughts, interpretations, or self-talk) C- Consequen...