The process of letting go happens when we understand our emotions

By watedroplet

I remember one of my counseling classes when I was supposed to take a practice counseling session. I started my

session quite well, and I was successful in grabbing the thoughts the person was going through. I held that and gave a

good outcome to my client; my guide said no, this is not a wise move in counseling, and I was like, all was good,

why did he say this? I didn't understand why, to date. 

Today, as I was reading the perspective of Dr. Hawkins on understanding our emotions, he cited a wonderful example

of misplacing his passport just before our scheduled trip. He searched every place and every corner but could not

find it. His thoughts were flooded with canceled trips, loss of business meetings, family trips, etc.

Since there was no time to apply for another passport, he quietly sat down and dove deep within himself to

understand what he was feeling right now. Yes, he was full of fear. Fear of what? It was the fear of losing the near

and dear ones, fear of loss of relationship, or at least weakening of the relationship. These losses have filled him with

grief to such an extent that he loses connection with his action and mind. In other words, his hands are doing one work

and his body is going another work, and both are in two different worlds that are not connected. Thus, after placing

his passport, he forgot and got busy with other mind wrestling.

Once he got in touch with the real emotion playing within him, he got the peace of his struggling mind. Now, his

mind was clear, and he quickly remembers where he had kept his passport. It was the simplest place one could think of.

This happens only when we are in an unconscious blocked state.

As I was reading this example and analyzing the importance of understanding our emotions for our smooth

functioning. I closed my eyes and tried to remember how many times I do this and found that I have done this many

times. I will share with you two incidences.

In the first instance, a nurse was doing a daily activity and was giving medications to the patients. She opened her

medication book and jotted down the injections of the noon and evening time. All was done and she finished her shift

and was gone. Next morning, when she came, her senior pointed that she had missed one dose of injection of one

of one of the patients. She went and opened and saw there was an injection, which she missed while writing down. This

is a big mistake on the part of healthcare personnel. Then she decided to explore why this mistake happened. She

tried to understand her feelings and found that she was feeling lonely and segregated, i.e., sad. As she understood the

cause of sadness and found her peace, her such mistakes also vanished.

In a similar situation, another healthcare worker was working in the neonatal intensive care unit. One very serious baby

came at night. At one point, his heart stopped, and immediate resuscitation was needed. The doctor asked for a control

drug. The healthcare personnel started to remember where did the head madam kept those drugs during this renovation

time (the head madam had shown her, but now she could not recollect.) The child died. Whole night the healthcare

Personnel tried to remember what Madam said. In the morning, after all her chores and routines were finished, she

suddenly remembers it was kept in the third room. She went and checked and found it there. This happened because

She became everyone was talking ill about her, and they were damaging her image in every way. This made her feel

lonely and insulted. This sad feeling was keeping her preoccupied and not giving a hundred percent in her present work.

I mentioned these two points only to show how dangerous it could be if we do not understand our emotions.


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