Stance of surrender

By watedroplet
 
Today I want to take a break and introduce you all to the concept of surrender. I began my discussion by understanding what is in control and what is not, which means surrendering my control; then I talked about watching oneself from a distance, which means surrendering my present place and going to a new place and seeing myself; and the third one, which I discussed, was about watching oneself from the future, which means to surrender my present hold and go to the future where I want to be, and from there, what would my understanding be for the present situation. In all there, I am talking about surrender. What does surrender mean?

David R. Hawkins, in his book "Letting Go: The Pathway to Surrender," says that surrender means to have no strong feeling about a thing. In other words, if I have surrendered a thing to you, whether you make good of it or bad of it should not affect me in any way. The attachment that is built with the thing makes us think about what will happen if I give this thing to another person. Surrender dissolves this attachment and teaches us to give authority to the new owner to decide the fate of the thing. Till the time it was with you, you decided its fate, but now that it has found its new owner, let that person decide what should be done. 

For example, a few years ago, I landed in a very bad fight. The other party would instigate every other day so that I make some mistakes. I did also initially, which was used by them to present me as a bad person. Stress was building up, and my peace of mind was lost. I strongly wanted to reveal those misconceptions that were spreading around, but they were so strong that no one was ready to listen to my truths. I surrendered to this and tried my best to be quiet because this is not the right time to speak. It took me a lot of effort and spiritually exploring ways to keep myself calm in times of adversity. I succeeded. My surrender made them mad, and they just didn't know how to show me more wrong because now I gave the fight. They did wrong, and I still remained quiet. No reaction. This continued for months, I guess. All this while, when I was surrendering and keeping myself quiet, I was building my character of perseverance and patience. This character helps me a lot in visualizing every situation from a distance as well as from a future perspective. This surrender turned out to be a boon for my whole life. 

Finally, the day came when the universe answered my prayers. My time changed, and now people who were telling ill about me started to ask me why I was bearing all this. I was invited to speak about what was happening all around. me I used this opportunity to show them all the wrongs that were done to me. They attended my talk and judged the situation and the things that were happening around me. This closeness to me sent waves of chills in their nerves as if they were losing the game they built all these months, but the time was in my favor and my surrender was speaking a lot. People found them guilty, and my reputation was restored. 

Surrender is a very powerful tool. No one wins over it. We fight because we want that. When we surrender, we allow others to take what they were laboring against freely. This sensation sends chills that my moves do not affect the other person. Their plans to trouble us fail, and everything dies. Thus, letting go happens.


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