The pathway is Letting go

By watedroplet

    This season, I started well, but as usual, roadblockers are always there in various disguises. Balancing myself at this stage was essential, but that was not happening. I tried ignoring them and dragging away my thoughts to calm myself, but I was smoldering. This turned into a fire, as usual, stealing my peace. I was looking for ways to regain my peace. At this point in time, I found the book "The Art of Letting Go" by Nick Trenton. 

    The first page of this book introduced me to three concepts that made a big difference in my life. I will discuss those topics in my subsequent blog posts. 

1. The principle of dichotomy of control

2. Nonjudgemental thinking

3. The concept of self-distancing. 

    Before discussing these three topics, I would like to discuss a few more versions of letting go, which I found very interesting. As I was exploring what letting go really means, I came across the book "Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender" by David R. Hawkins. I was sitting and analyzing my situation, where I wanted to hold on to the rope to prove only myself to be right, and that is the cause of my unhappy and unpeaceful state. Letting go is to surrender and give off the rope, and that is the difficult part. I would not have accepted this concept if I had not seen the book, "Power vs Force: The Determinant of Human Behavior" by David R. Hawkins. 

The book “Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender” also brought many good aspects that we can apply in our lives to be happy and at peace with ourselves. I liked a few of them the most. The first one is what letting go is. Letting go is the feeling of lightness when the constricting thing is released. THE CONSTRICTING THING, which could be a band or a feeling of anger, anguish, malice, etc. is stealing our peace of mind. We need to understand this vivid, constricting thing (based on situations) that is causing all trouble and let it go. I have experienced it before, and I am going through it at present, too. It is like I want to hold my anger and show everyone how much I am hurt, but people are not interested in attending to my temper tantrums. The moment I leave it and say, “It's okay. Leave it. Let us move on.” Now, everyone will say, ‘How big is her heart? She is so kind.’ This is what is the power of surrender. So, letting go is releasing constriction/constraint consciously and frequently at our will ( Hawkins, 1998). He adds value to this move, emphasising our control over how we feel and not on the world or our reactions to it.


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