Allow others to know you

We all fear of the unknown. Isn't it. 

Recall the first day of your exam. Weren't you afraid to take the exam? Yes, you were. But then you took a deep breath, calmed yourselves, and assured yourselves that everything would be fine, and you took the test. You fought your fear and made your way straight forward. This first step had rewarding results. You found that your preparation for the examinations was quite good, and you know the majority of the answers. Had you not taken this first step and listened to the fear that stood in front of you like a wall, you would have been unaware of all the capabilities you had within yourselves.

 

This reminds me of Johari's window. It occupies four corners of the square.

So there are things that we also know and that others also know. This section makes us transparent to others. Then there are sections that we don't know but others know, which gives others the upper hand over ourselves. Then there are some sections we prefer to keep hidden from others. This creates real confusion and makes us mysterious. None of us want our friends to be in this zone. Above all, there are sections that we don't know nor do others. The uncertain sections, which really create chaos. If we work on ourselves and increase our open self we become more clear and transparent. That makes us more loveable and effective. If we narrow that zone, we become more conservative and less appreciable.

When we try to increase our open self we become vulnerable, and it seems scary, but in the long run, this vulnerability makes us clear to others, and they like to be our friends and work with us. This first step towards ourselves increases our personal effectiveness among our friends, colleagues, and other crowds. This adds to our likelihood of being chosen by others.

This happens because we chose to take our first step towards improvement.

So, if we find that our effectiveness among our crowd is reducing, then it is a red flag to attend to ourselves. Our bad feelings, grudges, and negative thoughts have clogged us so much that we have reduced our open self space to our friends and colleagues, causing them to not trust us. If this is the scenario, then we need to really look within ourselves and find out what is troubling us. What is stopping us from opening up to others?

So I conclude by quoting Lao Tzu's quote.

 

"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."

 

If we want others to join hands with us and work with us, we need to start with this single step of exploring ourselves and making ourselves known to others.

This post is a part of Blogchatter Half Marathon 2023